Category Archives: Rabbi Mordecai Miller

Rabbi Miller comes to Beth Ami from 21 years as the Rabbi of Brith Sholom Kneseth Israel in St. Louis. In 1991, Rabbi Miller came to St. Louis from Canton, Ohio where he served as Rabbi of Shaaray Torah Synagogue for ten years. Prior to his tenure at Shaaray Torah, he spent seven years at Temple of Aaron in St. Paul Minnesota as Assistant Rabbi to Rabbi Bernard Raskas.

The son of a rabbi, Mordecai Miller was born in the United States and moved with his family to South Africa when his father, Rabbi Meyer Miller, accepted the pulpit at Temple David in Durban. After receiving his B.A. from the University of Natal, Rabbi Miller returned to the United States and entered the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in Cincinnati where he was ordained in 1974, receiving both B.H.L. and M.A.H.L. degrees.

Rabbi Miller is a member of the Rabbinical Assembly of America and is a past president of the St. Louis Rabbinical Association. Rabbi Miller has served on the boards of the St. Louis Jewish Light, Care and Counseling and is past member of the cabinet of Interfaith Partnership. He continues to serve on the advisory boards of these organizations. Over his twenty-one years in St. Louis Rabbi Miller has taught various classes in Bible and Rabbinics at BSKI and throughout the St. Louis community, including teaching Talmud to the Seventh and Eighth grade classes at Solomon Schechter Day School and offering courses at the Adult Melton mini-school and the Robert P. Jacobs Adult Institute.

Rabbi Miller comes to Santa Rosa with his wife Susan; their daughter Sarah, who is working for for Brandeis Hillel Day School of San Francisco and Marin, as Interim Director of Jewish Life and Learning; and Susan’s son Miles Yehonatan. The Miller’s son, Micah, lives with his wife Aliza in Los Angeles where he is completing his first year of study at the Ziegler Rabbinical School of the American Hebrew University.

In his free time, Rabbi Miller enjoys studying texts, reading, singing, playing the clarinet, cooking and baking.

The Nature of Dignity or What it means to become an Adult

Rabbi Mordecai Miller


Congregation Beth Ami

January, 2014

 The Nature of Dignity  or  What it means to become an Adult

On the surface, we know that they still have many years to go before they can really speak about being an adult, but how many of us pause to consider what it really means to “become an adult”?  How does that relate to the ceremony of Bar or Bat Mitzvah, and beyond the opportunity it offers for celebration – (not to be sneezed at by any means!) – of what profound significance does it really have?For those of us well past the age of thirteen; we can appreciate the irony when the Bar or Bat Mitzvah says, “Today I am a man,” or “Today I’m a woman.”

What does it mean to become a “Bar” or “Bat Mitzvah” ?

In Hebrew the term is an idiom which denotes that such an individual has reached a point in their development where they understand the consequences of their behavior in society.  Traditionally, there is a b’rachah to be recited by the parents of a child who reaches this stage.  “Baruch … she’patrani me’onsho shel zeh.” “Blessed art You … Who has absolved me of the consequences due to this person.”

In other words; up to this point in the child’s development, the parent is held responsible for their child’s actions (read “misbehavior”); from this point on, the child is now held accountable.  To put this in “Jewish” terms: since Mitz’vot (i.e. “Divine Commandments”) define the responsibilities of the individual – what  their Creator obligates them to do and what their Creator forbids them to do; becoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah means that person has reached the stage in their life where they are capable of understanding and complying with these obligations.

Speaking this kind of language puts in perspective the significance of each individual’s role in society.  This comes to the original title of this article: “The Nature of Dignity”.  I would like to suggest that every human being has an innate yearning to be significant: a raison d’être. There are very few – if any – who are satisfied being mere “cogs in a wheel”.  The truth, however, is that very few of us will ever achieve the immortality of a Shakespeare or a Beethoven or a Moses, and even those individuals haven’t achieved universal significance.  What chance, then, do we have?

A profound discovery occurs in the life of an individual when they realize that the nature of dignity – of self-worth – lies in being of service to others.  This fundamental truth, which flies in the face of natural human impulse, is suggested by the English word “knight”, which comes with the title “Sir…”  The word is directly related to the German “Knecht” (Yes, “gh”was once pronounced “ch” as in the Scottish word “loch”!) which means “Servant”!  In fact one of the mottos of England is “Ich Dien” which translates to “I serve”.

So the question shifts to “Who or what do you serve?”  To who or what do you devote your life?”  The more encompassing the answer, the higher the level of self-worth or human dignity.

Putting this together: becoming an adult essentially means taking on the responsibility to serve others; ones family and society. “Giving back!”  Again, from the Jewish perspective, there can be no greater service that represents such “giving back” than serving the Creator of the Universe – by performing God’s commandments: mitzvot.  In the process of discovering those commandments and in serving God by ones devotion to family and society, a “mere mortal” achieves universal significance!


Mordecai Miller